Posted by admin | Posted in Leadership | Posted on 06-08-2008
Co-workers. Depending on your environment they’re either friends or foes. Whether you work with a team, independently or in small groups I have no doubt you’re familiar with the joys and sorrows that often come from having to co-exist with other people!
Let’s tackle the teamwork scenario first: A "team" project has always elicited groans, sighs and rolled eyes. Inevitably at least one member of the team either honestly has no idea HOW to do their part, or just has no DESIRE to do it. Both can be incredibly frustrating. How do we handle our share of the load and that of our co-workers?
Most importantly, we have to keep our attitude in check. This is the hardest thing to conquer: OURSELF! We have to remember that God sees the work and effort we are putting into a project. Our feelings and emotions often try to get into the mix. It’s easy for us to become offended and feel sorry for ourselves when we feel that we are working harder than other "teammates."
Now, let’s say you work independently. So, what about the co-worker who can tell you’re on a big project, facing a tight-deadline and suddenly needs one of your files? And they need it ASAP! Especially if we suspicion that the other party just doesn’t want to put forth the effort to do their part. Or better yet, they attempt to sabotage the project (yep, it happens!).
I had to learn that I cannot let other people "pull me into the boat with them." When they send vicious emails I respond sweetly, and they eventually give up. If I respond just as viciously, often that response will spur them on to make our lives a living hell. One word leads to another and before you know it you don’t even speak when you meet them in the hallway.
Thankfully, I work in an environment where my co-workers are also my best friends. We hang out on the weekends, enjoy time at each other’s houses and other activities.
Recently, a co-worker decided it was time for them to move on. Never before have I seen an office pull together and bless a fellow co-worker like that one. We raised over $300 dollars for him and a video game system he was wanting. It was truly awesome to be a part of.
All that to say, no matter how desparate your co-worker situation may look, stick with it, continue to do the right thing, and you’ll get to the other side, before you know it!
Someone told me a long time ago the person who makes you angry controls you, well, that just made me more angry at the time
But later when i had cooled down and thought about the comment it made more sense to me. You might not be able to control a person or situation, but you can control yourself. If you allow yourself to get all worked up and upset, the only person that is probably going to suffer is you, well you and maybe your close friends and family because there the ones we tend to take our frustrations out on. Odd huh? But don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of those always optimistic make you want to gag kinda people that are always happy 24/7 with no problems, i have my days 
, I’m just saying we can try.
And I have to say i consider myself very lucky because the people i work with are GREAT!
Someone once told me that the person that makes you angry controls you. Well at the time that just made me more angry, but after i had cooled down and thought about it, it did make sense. We can’t always control situations and we definitely can’t control people, but we can control ourselves. If we allow ourselves to get all worked up and upset the only person we’re hurtinng is ourselves, well ourselves and our close friends and family because they are the ones we tend to take our frustrations out on. Odd huh? But don’t get me worng, I’m not one of those always optimistic, make you want to gag, happy 24/7, no problems kinda person, i have my days
I’m just saying we can try.
But, i have to be honest, the people i work with are awesome, they make the difference between my job being good and it being great!
Hahah, i didnt think my comment went through the first time cuz it didnt show up and now its there twice! All the more important it must be!
Co-workers can be a delight and a drag at the same time. Working in an environment full of positivity is awesome, but if you work with someone who is negative 3 days out of the 5 it can make your flesh rise up and not act in the Godly manner you should. I’ve noticed that if I react in sweetness and not in bitterness, it usually helps the situation. You know how they say you can’t beat a fire with fire. It is the same thing. It can be frustrating to act sweet when someone is being a bit bitter but it is more rewarding in the end.